It can be said that in the Holy Spirit the
intimate life of the Triune God becomes totally gift, an exchange of mutual
love between the divine Persons and that through the Holy Spirit God exists in
the mode of gift. It is the Holy Spirit who is the personal expression of this
self-giving, of this being-love. He is Person- Love. He is Person-Gift. (John
Paul II, Dominum et Vivificantum, Section 10),
One
of the most attractive and convicting aspects of Christianity is the principle
that God is love. And that love is a
relational love between “persons”—beings that have intellect and will. This is a fundamental belief of Christianity,
especially when applied to the relationship of the Holy Trinity. This principle is also applied to individual human
persons who are created in the image and likeness of God. This paper presents reflections on the
understanding of the Holy Trinity presented by Pope John Paul II in his
writings and his application of this model of relationship to ethics of the Christian
marital union. Five meditations on the
concept of “love as gift” are given, three on the love of the Trinity and two
on the love in the marital union.
Love
as Gift Through Creation
One of the most difficult transitions for
contemporary man is from experiencing “love” simply through his subjectivity to
truly loving in a relational manner. To experience emotions related to
affection and arousal as intense events of subjectivity, that both enliven and energize
the individual motivates one to repeat the event, is the norm. The search for “love” becomes addictive,
where one looks for the next pleasure “high” after the last “hit” fades away,
whether alone through means such as pornography or through using other beings. Love is described through the activity of “self-taking”
that benefits an individual, at best combined with the illusion of relationship
and care for the other. This is the standard
in a worldview that is supported by the paradigm of achieving the power to
consume such events to fill one’s self, even if ephemerally.
The offering by Christianity of love as a
relationship between persons that requires effort, suffering, and perseverance
is alien to such a culture, with the goal not the taking of pleasure but the giving of one’s self to the other and
receiving the other person’s self, always with the good of the other person as
primary motivation. This definition of
love derives from the Christian understanding of God as revealed through Jesus
Christ: “In his intimate life, God "is love,” the essential love shared by
the three divine Persons: personal love is the Holy Spirit as the Spirit of the
Father and the Son. Therefore he ‘searches even the depths of God,’ as
uncreated Love-Gift. It can be said that in the Holy Spirit the intimate life
of the Triune God becomes totally gift, an exchange of mutual love between the
divine Persons and that through the Holy Spirit God exists in the mode of gift.
It is the Holy Spirit who is the personal expression of this self-giving, of
this being-love. He is Person- Love. He is Person-Gift.” (Ibid.). This love of the Trinity is the perfection of
love, of self-gift, and the goal and source of human love.
God desires to give Himself to His
creation and to man in a special way though: “God, as Christ has revealed Him,
does not merely remain closely linked with the world as the Creator and the
ultimate source of existence. He is also Father: He is linked to man, whom He
called to existence in the visible world, by a bond still more intimate than
that of creation. It is love which not only creates the good but also grants
participation in the very life of God: Father, Son and Holy Spirit. For he who
loves desires to give himself.” (John Paul II, Dives et Misericordia, Section
7). God as Father grants human persons an
invitation to participate in the perfection of Trinitarian love, albeit not
perfectly. This is not something man can
effect but only receive by receiving the gift of the Holy Spirit: “At the same
time, the Holy Spirit, being consubstantial with the Father and the Son in
divinity, is love and uncreated gift from which derives as from its source (fons
vivus) all giving of gifts vis-a-vis creatures (created gift): the gift of
existence to all things through creation; the gift of grace to human beings
through the whole economy of salvation. As the Apostle Paul writes: ‘God's love
has been poured into our hearts through the Holy Spirit which has been given to
us.’” (John Paul II, Dominum et Vivificantum, Section 10). Man was created by God to participate in the
love of God through bearing His image and likeness: “the context of the Book of
Genesis enables us to see in the creation of man the first beginning of God's
salvific self-giving commensurate with the ‘image and likeness’ of himself
which he has granted to man” (Ibid., Section 12).
While man did receive the Holy Spirit at
his creation, allowing him to be in relationship with God “in the garden”, he then
chose to reject God as “the Father who gives Himself”, instead seeking the
power of the “knowledge of good and evil”: “Original sin attempts, then, to
abolish fatherhood, destroying its rays which permeate the created world,
placing in doubt the truth about God who is Love and leaving man only with a
sense of the master-slave relationship [with God]. As a result, the Lord appears jealous of His
power over the world and over man; and consequently, man feels goaded to do
battle against God.” (John Paul II, Crossing the Threshold of Hope, p.
228). Man abandons the created reality
of God’s image and likeness to pursue the illusion of power from the fruit of “the
tree [which] was to be desired to make one wise” (Genesis 3:6). He rejects the
plenitude of God’s gift of Himself and his capability to love is thus corrupted
to one of using other beings to gain love rather than receiving what God
provides.
Love
as a Gift Through Redemption
With the choice of original sin man inherits
the enslavement of a “self-taking” that does not satisfy—that is, not receiving
the love of God for which he is created.
He is left unfulfilled and unable to choose what he requires for
happiness. Jesus comes as Messiah,
anointed with the Holy Spirit, to free man so that he may choose to receive
love once again from the Father, to redeem him from his “captivity” to sin by
the way of a “new beginning”, a “new creation”: “Christ links the new beginning
of God's salvific self-communication in the Holy Spirit with the mystery of the
Redemption. It is a new beginning, first of all because between the first
beginning and the whole of human history-from the original fall onwards-sin has
intervened, sin which is in contradiction to the presence of the Spirit of God
in creation, and which is above all in contradiction to God's salvific self-
communication to man.” (John Paul II, Dominum et Vivificantum, Section
13). The Holy Spirit comes to us in the
power released through the passage of Jesus through the Paschal Mystery: “The ‘departure’
of Christ through the Cross has the power of the Redemption-and this also means
a new presence of the Spirit of God in creation: the new beginning of God's
self-communication to man in the Holy Spirit.“ (Ibid., Section 14). And this new presence enters into man’s
subjectivity, providing the “power” that drive the process of the conversion of
his heart from “self-taking” to “self-giving”: “With the sending of this Spirit
‘into our hearts," there begins the fulfillment of that for which ‘creation
waits with eager longing,’ as we read in the Letter to the Romans” (Ibid.), the
longing to receive the love of God.
The love of God enters into our hearts
through the presence of the Holy Spirit in a way that is to change us—"It
is he: the Spirit of truth, the Paraclete sent by the Risen Christ to transform
us into his own risen image.” (Ibid., Section 24). Jesus makes available this transformation at great
cost, a fact to remember: “There is no sending of the Holy Spirit (after
original sin) without the Cross and the Resurrection: ‘If I do not go away, the
Counselor will not come to you.’ There is also established a close link between
the mission of the Holy Spirit and that of the Son in the Redemption. The mission
of the Son, in a certain sense, finds its ‘fulfillment’ in the Redemption. The
mission of the Holy Spirit ‘draws from’ the Redemption: ‘He will take what is
mine and declare it to you.’” (Ibid.).
The “going away” of Jesus is a painful and protracted death followed by his
Resurrection and Ascension. The
disciples of Christ also pass through the Paschal Mystery with Jesus, through
the power of the Holy Spirit whose mission is to bring the Redemption into our
hearts: “Redemption is totally carried out by the Son as the Anointed One, who
came and acted in the power of the Holy Spirit, offering himself finally in
sacrifice on the wood of the Cross. And this Redemption is, at the same time,
constantly carried out in human hearts and minds-in the history of the world-by
the Holy Spirit, who is the "other Counselor.” (Ibid.). This gift of the Redemption enters into our
hearts as we enact our own Paschal Mystery through Baptism and Confirmation as we
transform into a new form of creation (the kaine ktisis of Galatians
6:15).
Love
as a Gift through the Marital Union
One of the formative experiences of Karol
Wojtyla’s priesthood was his participation in ministering to youth, starting
with his placement at Saint Florian’s parish in March of 1949, where he engaged
the youth and young adults with the challenge of living a Catholic faith in the
midst of socialist totalitarianism. The
vivacity and challenge of philosophical discussions evolved into the demands
and rewards of following Catholic teachings on marriage and family over the
course of years, forming a “milieu” or Srodowisko (George Weigel, Witness
to Hope, page 98) of hundreds of young adults. During this time Father Wojtyla applied his education
in philosophy and moral theology to the problems and opportunities of living
the sexual ethics of Catholicism under persecution in a neo-Marxist,
materialist culture.\
One result of his experience is his work Love
and Responsibility, where he expresses his thought that developed partially
as a result of his time in Srodowisko.
Specifically, he contrasts the
egocentric hedonism of utilitarianism in neo-Marxism with the personal love of
Christianity: “It is quite clearly visible that with the presuppositions of
utilitarianism, the subjective attitude regarding the understanding of good
(good as pleasure) leads on a straight path to egoism, even if this may be not
deliberate. The only way out of this
inevitable egoism is to recognize besides a purely subjective good, i.e.,
besides pleasure, an objective good, which can also unite persons—and
then it acquires the characteristics of a common good. This objective common good is the foundation
of love, and the persons choosing this common good together at the same time
subordinate themselves to it. Thanks to
this, they bind one another with the true, objective bond of love, the bond
that enables them to liberate themselves from subjectivism and from egoism
inherently concealed in it. Love is a
union of persons” (Karol Wojtyla, Love and Responsibility (2nd
Edition), page 22). Christian marital
love is dependent on the objective common good which each spouse chooses as
superior to their own subjectivity.
He then develops the idea of the
“personalistic norm”, an axiological norm demanding that “the person is a kind
of good to which only love constitutes the proper and fully-mature relation.” (Ibid.,
page 25). He connects this norm to the
Gospel of Jesus Christ: “The commandment formulated in the Gospel demands from
man love for other people, for neighbors (blizni); in its full reading,
however, it demands love for persons.
For God, whom the commandment to love names in the first place, is the
perfect personal Being. The world of
created persons draws its distinctness and natural superiority in relation to
the world of things (non-persons) from its particular likeness to God” (Ibid.,
page 24). Since it is the nature of God
that through the Holy Spirit “the intimate life of the Triune God becomes
totally gift” (John Paul II, Dominum et Vivificantum, Section 10), this
likeness to God is instantiated through the complete and total self-gift of man
and woman in the marital union: “The fact that man ‘created as man and woman’
is the image of God means not only that each of them individually is like God,
as a rational and free being. It also means that man and woman, created as a ‘unity
of the two’ in their common humanity, are called to live in a communion of
love, and in this way to mirror in the world the communion of love that is in
God, through which the Three Persons love each other in the intimate mystery of
the one divine life.” (John Paul II, Mulieris Dignitatis, Section 7).
This total gift of self provides the
foundation of marriage: “This gift of self lies at the basis of the marriage
covenant, bringing to it the special dimension of love that we find in the
concept of married love” (Karol Wojtyla, “The Family as a Community of Persons
in Person and Community, Section 4) as well as a communio personae
in which “the spouses mutually give themselves to and accept each other.” (Ibid.).
The marital union through the conjugal act becomes the point of complete
self-gift and reception of the other, in body and soul: “Communio as a
mutual, interpersonal relationship, together with the bond arising from this
relationship, must in marriage promote the kind of confirmation of the person,
the kind of mutual affirmation, that is demanded by the very nature of this
bond. Consequently, anything that
makes one person an object of use for the other is contrary to the nature of
the marital bond [emphasis added] as a communio personarum” (Ibid.).
This last is the difficult part of marital
union, for the conjugal act lies on the knife’s edge of complete self-giving
and reception of the other that is the cornerstone of the sacramentality of
marriage: “A man and a woman who are united by such a very intimate community
of life and calling, based on the difference of sex, may not in any way violate
those profound laws that govern the union of persons and condition their true
communion. These are objective laws,
deeper than the whole somatic or emotional reality, laws that have their basis
and justification in very being and value of the person”. (Ibid.). As such, the gift of love through the marital
union is truly “a task” requiring constant sacrifice of subjectivity for the
common good of the marriage.
Love
as a Gift through Self-Emptying (Love as a Gift through Sacrifice)
Changing from the willing of one’s
subjective “pleasure” to choosing the objective “common good” requires transcendence
and a self-emptying. But what is this “substance”
of which one empties from one’s self? The
classic text for this description of self-emptying is from Saint Paul’s Letter
to the Philippians: “Who, being in very form of God, did not consider equality
with God something to be used to his own advantage; rather, he made himself
nothing by taking the very nature of a servant, being made in human likeness. And being found in appearance as a man, he
humbled himself by becoming obedient to death—even death on a cross!” (Philippians
2:6-8 NRSVCE). This is an answer to the
original sin where “you will be like god”, the “sin in its original reality
takes place in man's will-and conscience-first of all as ‘disobedience,’ that
is, as opposition of the will of man to the will of God. This original
disobedience presupposes a rejection, or at least a turning away from the truth
contained in the Word of God, who creates the world.” (John
Paul II, Dominum et Vivificantum, Section 33). One could say that it is the emptying of the
illusion of being God and accepting the truth of creaturely obedience in
relationship to God.
Jesus provides the pathway out of original
sin by taking on human nature and emptying himself of all willfulness, obeying
the Father even when it means suffering and death, as incarnation of God’s love. Through His self-emptying, His death on the
cross, he brings human nature back into its proper relationship of loving God.
This proper relationship includes man’s self-giving to God and receiving God in
His Holy Spirit: “It is a new beginning, first of all because between the first
beginning and the whole of human history-from the original fall onwards-sin has
intervened, sin which is in contradiction to the presence of the Spirit of God
in creation, and which is above all in contradiction to God's salvific self- communication
to man.” (Ibid.). Man’s reconciling with God includes the
receiving of the Holy Spirit, made possible through the unfathomable love show
by Jesus through his living through the Paschal Mystery: “God's kenosis, a
grand and mysterious truth for the human mind, which finds it inconceivable
that suffering and death can express a love which gives itself and seeks
nothing in return.” (John Paul II, Fides et Ratio, Section 93). Jesus gave himself and his life seeking
nothing in return, a model for choosing the objective good over the subjective
good.
While salvation has now become available
to man, he is not able to fully receive the Holy Spirit in his relationship
with God because of the continuation of original sin in each human person,
where love is corrupted by the temptation to seek something in return. Thus we must “work out [our] own salvation
with fear and trembling”—love is a task, an effort on man’s part: “For I
delight in the law of God, in my inmost self, but I see in my members another
law at war with the law of my mind and making me captive to the law of sin
which dwells in my members. Wretched man
that I am! Who will deliver me from this body of death? Thanks be to God
through Jesus Christ our Lord! So then, I of myself serve the law of God with
my mind, but with my flesh I serve the law of sin.” (Romans 7:22-25, RSVCE).
I believe that each disciple of Jesus must
pass through the Paschal Mystery with Him, the process of emptying himself so
that he can enter more and more into the life of the Holy Trinity by becoming more
and more like Jesus. Our “Passion” is to
suffer the obedience to the Father despite the loss of pleasure and the persecution
of the “world”, giving witness to the “new creation” in which we love through
the Holy Spirit, and seeking nothing in return—a life of joy and suffering that
frees man to love God.
Love
as a Gift through Chastity
Karol Wojtlya, following from Max Scheler,
speaks of the “rehabilitation of chastity” from the error of the resentment of
the virtue of chastity: “not only does [resentment] falsify the image of the
good, but also depreciates what should merit the esteem, so that man does not
have to take pains to measure up to the true good, but can ‘safely’ acknowledge
as the good only what suits him, what is convenient for him. Resentment is contained in the subjectivistic
mentality: here pleasure replaces a superior value.” (Karol Wojtyla, Love
and Responsibility 2nd Edition, page 126). Resentment is generated through a
“subjectivistic mentality” which pursues pleasure as its end, an obstacle to
marital love and union since at best it seeks a quid pro quo and at worst seeks
to use the other simply as a means to sexual pleasure.
Chastity, in the context of sexual ethics,
is the practice of choosing the objective “common good” of marriage over the
subjective good of pleasure when such a choice is required. It is very difficult to practice since it is
too easy to confuse the common good of marriage and the subjective good: “From
the mere richness of affections one cannot pass judgment on the value of the
reciprocal relation of persons. The very
abundance of emotional lived-experiences born on the ground of sensuality can
conceal in itself a lack of true love, and even downright egoism. For love is something different from amorous
lived-experiences. Love is formed on the
basis of a thorough and fully responsible relation of a person to another
person, whereas amorous lived-experiences are born spontaneously in reactions
to sensuality and affectivity.” (Ibid., page 127). It is easy to fool one’s self by imagining “amorous
lived-experiences” are good simply due to the intensity of their pleasure despite
a disintegration of the accompanying personal love: “The disintegration [of
love] means above all an underdevelopment of the ethical [personal] essence of
love. . . .for the good of love, for the sake of realizing love’s true essence
both in every person and between persons, it is necessary to be freed from all
those “amorous” live-experiences that do not find justification in true love,
that is, in the reciprocal relation between a man and a woman based on a mature
affirmation of the value of the person.” (Ibid., page 128). Love is a task!
Love as self-gift and reception of the
other rests upon this “mature affirmation of the value of the person”, upon the
choosing of the good of the other. This requires
the suffering that comes from deferring or denying subjective good for the
common good of affirming the value of the other since self-taking is a great
temptation in “amorous lived-experiences”.
The task of chastity is to “liberate love from the attitude to use” (Ibid.,
page 154) to allow the conjugal act to occur without the attitude of use. This is a redemptive suffering, however,
since it frees one to “myself serve the law of God with my mind” as Saint Paul
says in the Letter to the Romans. With
the virtue of chastity in practice, love is possible: “The mature virtue [of chastity]
is a habit that consists in keeping constantly in balance the concupiscent
power by the habitual relation to the true good (bonum honestum), which
is defined by reason.” (Ibid., page 153).
Conclusion
Karol Wojtyla, and later as John
Paul II, focused on the role of self-gift as the action by man which could
contribute to his happiness, as was famously incorporated into the council
document Gaudium et Spes: “Indeed, the Lord Jesus, when He prayed to the
Father, "that all may be one. . . as we are one" (John 17:21-22)
opened up vistas closed to human reason, for He implied a certain likeness
between the union of the divine Persons, and the unity of God's sons in truth
and charity. This likeness reveals that man, who is the only creature on
earth which God willed for itself, cannot fully find himself except through a
sincere gift of himself [emphasis added].” (Paul VI, Gaudium et Spes,
1964). This gift of self is the base of
true relationship between persons, forming his understanding of the Holy
Trinity, which is then the model for the marital union. In addition, this self-giving requires kenosis,
a self-emptying that is intrinsic to the loving relationship of the Trinity and
a requirement for marital sacramentality.
The latter is an “emptying” of choosing one’s subjectivity for the
purpose of choosing the common good of the marriage. This provides an objective basis for the
marriage, although at the cost of suffering deferring or sacrifice of each
spouse’s subjective good. This then
becomes part of each spouse’s imitation of the Paschal Mystery and part of the
working out of their own salvation through the marital union.